Nokia Bluetooth Help!!!!!!!!

Ok, I just bought a blue tooth 'dongle' (how gay) and am trying to sync up my phone to my pc so I can put songs on it, blah blah blah.

I cannot get this shit to work! I don't know what I am doing wrong. When I try to pair my phone, it finds my pc, but it won't pair. and I am using Nokia PC Suite and it won't find my phone either.

Any help?
Can I just put my sd card in the adfapter and plug it into a reader and put songs on it that way?

Thanks.
Shawn.